Update!

We are plugging away over here! We decided to try potty training. At first it was like pulling teeth, but it is getting better. He can pee on the potty now. Although only when we initiate it - he isn't initiating it yet. But he certainly knows how to hold it. Especially his number 2. He didn't poop at all yesterday. Anyone have any tips on that (short of an enema!)? I know he has to go, because his diaper this morning had two tiny little pieces. Elijah was super easy to potty train, so I feel like I don't know what I am doing!

Jacob seems to be bulking up some. His diet in Korea was mainly rice and vegetables (according to his foster mother). She said he would spit out meat. But he certainly hasn't done that here. His appetite is increasing, and he is expanding his interests. He loves chicken. He was (and still is) a skinny little guy when he came home. Very healthy! Just thin. Which doesn't surprise me since he ate just rice and veggies! He is filling out some. At his doctor's visit, he was about 3/4 of an inch taller than Elijah but about .8 lb lighter than Elijah. Keep in mind that Elijah is pretty tall and he is also filling out some (which is what he does right before a growth spurt). Jacob was average height and close to the 25 percentile for weight (which is fine - his BMI is normal). I think I might put him on our scale and see where he is at now.

His grieving seems to go in waves. This morning he was a little sad, but once he ate he got better. He and Elijah have been happily playing. Jacob talked to Elijah in Korean, and Elijah seemed to understand it. Elijah stood up and said, "Ok" and walked over to where Jacob had been pointing. They also sang a Vegg.ie.tales song together. I can tell how much they love having each other, and their bond is really growing. In fact, we have to be intentional about separating the boys sometimes so that we can bond with Jacob as well. Which is a great problem to have!

Bonding and attachment takes time. But I can tell we have a great head start. He comes to us for comfort. He seems to trust that we will take care of him. He makes good eye contact. He seems to be much more on the serious side than Elijah is, but he gives us lots of smiles! And he will give kisses when we ask for them (which I LOVE). And he often walks around singing! :) His English is improving a lot. He can count mostly to 10 in English, and he seems to understand almost everything we say.

Bedtime is WAY better. We can just put him in his bed, put our hand on him for a second, tell him it is ok, and walk away. Having a body pillow for him to cuddle has been great. He doesn't cry anymore. I think it has also helped that we don't go straight from playing to getting ready for bed anymore. Since we have switched it, he hops right upstairs and into his bath happily.

I thought we had lots of bumps and scrapes and bruises with just Elijah. I was wrong! They play off of each other and run around a lot. Elijah has scraped himself in the same spot on his knee 4 times. And that is just 1 knee. Jacob is a little more careful than Elijah, but he still gets his fair share of bumps. Little boys are rough and tumble, but so much fun!

I know I have said this before, but I want to reemphasize that this transition has been extremely easy. For many people, sleep issues persist for 6 months to a year (not wanting to sleep alone and night terrors mainly).  Attachment issues have also been at a minimum for him. He doesn't have any sensory integration problems (which is also very common). He is getting his grief out in healthy ways. We were completely prepared for his special needs. He doesn't seem to have any trouble learning new things. I am not saying things couldn't change and get difficult. But we have been surprised at how easy it has been. We have been wondering if this is God's way of pushing us on to the next adoption.